Ignoring Red Flags to my Detriment - "Anything that's typically too good to be true, typically is"

by Betrayed
(Maryland)

For the past two and half years, I have had the most loving husband any woman could ever want.

He was good to me and my children. I fell in love with his charm and chilvary. Even my daughters told me that they would want a man in their lives just like him.

Here's the wake up call. Anything that's typically too good to be true, typically is.

My fairly tale marriage came tumbling down when I discovered my spouse had his cell phone on him all the time.

So, I contacted his wireless service and did a little research. Low and behold, I discovered a number through his text messages that kept repeating itself, so I let my curiosity get the best of me.

You darn right I called the number. His mistress seemed relieved that I called her. She didn't know he was married until a year into their relationship.

I asked pointed questions, and the answers lined up. All of my suspicions came to light in that hour long conversation.

Of course, when I inquired with my spouse, instead of being up front with me, he lied through his teeth.

So, I started stating certain facts, including his cell phone history. He finally fessed up but it was like pulling teeth.

Right now, I feel good, believe it or not. First, I beat the hell out of him. Then, I broke his prize possession (his computer) into a million pieces. Then I threw his ass out the door. Good riddens!! That happened last night.

I woke up early this morning to get my life on track, which is why I stumbled onto your website.

I still don't know why he cheated on me with his ex after our first year of marriage but all the tell-tell signs (included in your article) were there. I finally learned the truth, so now what.

I am strong, vibrant and young. I move on...and never look back. I believe in the old saying, "Once a cheat, always a cheat."

I wish nothing but the best for him. He sacrificed so much to be with me. He quit his job, left his parents, and relocated across country to marry me.

I asked him, "Why did he bother?" His only response to me: "I messed up." I wanted to say, "Duh...." Luckily, I've been independent most of my life, so financially I'm stable.

Unfortunately for him, because he is now making significantly less money, he doesn't even have enough money to move back home.

But I'm willing to spend money to make that happen. :)