Is a Hand Job Considered Cheating?

by Crystal
(Iowa)

Is a Hand Job Considered Cheating?

Is a Hand Job Considered Cheating?

Is a hand job considered cheating? My boyfriend and I have been together for more than two years now. We both spoke about our commitment to each other and he promised me that he would never cheat on me.


So last weekend he went out on the town with the guys as he does a few times a month. I never really gave him a hard time because he really doesn’t make it a habit to be out on the streets all the time.


Well, last weekend that all changed and I feel as if I have been betrayed. He came home pissy drunk. He claims to hardly remember the night. He conveniently almost forgot how he got the semen stains on his boxers as well.


After threatening to leave him, he finally confessed to getting a hand job from a stripper. I still don’t know if I should even believe that story.


I am looking for some advice. I have invested a lot of time with him, and he really is a caring, sincere (atleast I thought so..), affectionate man.


The first question I need help with: Is a hand job considered cheating?


I am not sure how I should feel when it comes to that.


Second question: Should I accept his story or dig deeper?


I am really confused, because I feel I am mostly angry about the fact that he is insisting that a hand job is not considered cheating.


Why does he get to make the rules?


I am absolutely positive he would leave me if he found out that I let some guy “play” with my privates no matter how drunk I claimed to be.


Please, please…let me know…is a Hand job Considered Cheating?

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Long ago
by: Anonymous

Many years ago my wife's boss got her into a compromising position. He got so excited that he e***ululated without any physical contact by my wife.
This was 40 years ago and I still wonder if she had indeed cheated on me.
I feel she did because she allowed him to talk her to be on the floor naked from the waste down. She quit that day and I have forgiven her for being naive.
Wondering that to
by: Anonymous

Ask him if you went to a male strip club and got drunk and j**ked of* on of the dancers would that be cheating ?
Yes
by: Anonymous

He cheated. He needs to own it. He needs to apologize. He needs to swear off the behavior. If it becomes a habit, put him in the catapult. Tell him that if it's not cheating, you will spend an afternoon with me sober and I will f**ger you into oblivion! Not cheating?
Seasoned Woman
by: Jean Frances Right

Yes; a hand job from another woman is cheating. A full body message from another woman without your knowledge is cheating. A coffee or meeting with another woman without your knowledge is cheating. A bond, of any sort for him with another woman can be seen as cheating as these bonds can absolutely grow and true love is built on friendship. Since Robert Kraft's dirty deeds at an Asian Message Parlor had come to light, the terrible truth about these abundant illegitimate businesses have come more and more into the light. Men frequent these places to get full body messages from unlicensed women who usually end 'the treatment' with a hand job for a good tip. Men do not see this,as cheating. They have convinced themselves and each other, that it is only a sex act where no bond is formed. They laugh and joke about not realizing that the very women painting their ladies nails for little or close to no pay, are then forced to provide 'happy endings' or many full service Asian Message parlors offer whatever you are willing to pay. Understand the 'happy ending' message, parlors sometimes offer the men free Intercourse for the same price. My belief is to get them drawn into the se* trade where they will blindly go over and over whenever it suits them. There is a lot to this picture and understanding what's really undermining our society and people's ability to have a true and decent relationship is understanding that America and the world for that matter has been por*ified. Por* is a tool or weapon being used to destroy foundational culture here in America. One viewing begins to change or remap the links within the brain. These very magnified images effect the brain in such a way, that it begins,to remap away from the viewers family and lived ones ~ in essence cutting them off from their families and creating po*n addiction which then leads to se* addiction. It is,my personal opinion from everything I have read that por* creates supply and demand for these illigitimate message parlors really brothels. Scientific studies are showing the chemical, psychological, and biological warfare at play. Please refer to Gary Wilson's book, 'Your Brain on Por*.' Also, see Lisa Ling's segment on her Sunday night show on CNN regarding por* addiction and the major societal alarms going off on an international level ~ scary stuff. If your man thinks he did not cheat and sees these acts as only sex acts and not cheating, this will not be the last time. My question to him and all men with this very twisted mindset, would be he be alright with you bringing a dildo and having full-body messages,by men to then use your dil*o to bring to orga** each time you go for a message over and over again. If not, why not. You see understand who's behind the por* industry and prostitu*ion worldwide. Do men not think that these people would nor record their sex acts without their permission easily viewed by a, click on the internet. Do we as a society not get that first they targeted our men creating a sub-culture approval conveniently, and now they are targeting women and tes, even our children. It's time to wake up. Understand that once porn is stopped it will take time to get your mind back because it has to remap back after time, love and honesty. Live consciously and follow your deepest instincts, they will never deceive you ♡
What is cheating
by: GOD

Let's step back for a sec and look at it this way ....before you get in a relationship with someone
You outta discuss what cheating means to you and it's not a pretty subject but those were part of the rules you forgot to discuss when you made that commitment ...just saying
cheating
by: Anonymous

Smarten up , its cheating, there is no way around it.
a hand job is not cheating
by: Anonymous

No a hand job is not considered cheating! If it was then doctors do it all the time.
yes, it's cheating
by: Anonymous

Getting sexual pleasure from another person is cheating.
Not Really
by: Anonymous

Not really, a hand job contains no emotional attachment. Other than the fact that you aren't mad that he went to a strip club It's really nothing at all.
mmmm
by: paulo.vero@hotmail.com

It depends.....the handjob was made by a stripper....is something pro....it's just fun...he was drunk....
If the handjob was made by a "friend"..that is cheating....
SALUDOS!!!!!
Rub and Tug
by: Anonymous

It's cheating. He's a dirt bag for thinking it's not big deal.
Whats good for the goose...
by: Gunner

Honey, let him decide if its cheating. Go out with your friends and get" pissy drunk" ,then let a male stripper fingerfu** you, see if he considers it "cheating"...GNR
Must you ask?
by: Anonymous

Yes. Any sexual act outside of your bedroom with another woman is considered cheating, especially since your relationship isn't established as being "open" sexually. What a dumbass he was.

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