by Debbie Lamedman
(The Dating Site Blog)
About the Author: Debbie Lamedman is an avid dating blogger. She frequently writes about dating for The Dating Site Blog. She is highly sought after by friends and bloggers for relationship advice.
There are no sure things in life except for death and taxes. You hope that you will find a loving, trusting partner to go through life with, but that isn’t always the case. Life has its twists and turns and people go through changes. Sometimes monogamy is not in the cards. If you are using a dating service to help you find a partner, you need to be honest with each other from the start. But even then, it won’t always be a guarantee that your partner won’t cheat on you.
If you’ve been dating for awhile, there may be some signs that your dating service partner is cheating. It’s not healthy to go through life constantly being paranoid, but if certain red flags start to fly, you need to start paying attention. Usually, in the early stages of a relationship when the two of you are very into each other, you want to talk and spend as much time together as possible. If suddenly your date stops returning your phone calls or makes excuses for not getting together, and this becomes a normal thing, you need to have a conversation. If your new partner would rather be with someone else than with you, you deserve to know. It’s a matter of respect if they’d rather call it quits, than continue to string you along.
Your dating service partner may not feel seeing other people is cheating. Be sure to establish boundaries as your relationship develops. If you’ve only been seeing each other briefly, and he or she is dating other people, there’s really nothing you can do about that. If you’re not in a bona fide relationship, they are free to date as many other people as they want. When things between the two of you start becoming more serious, this is when you should have that talk. Once intimacy enters the picture, you have a right to know if your partner is sleeping with others. In addition to the emotional ramifications this can bring, it’s also detrimental to your physical health if you’re not practicing safe sex.
There are a variety of reasons as to why people cheat in the first place, but if the cheating begins when you are in the early stages of a new relationship, you definitely need to move on. It will not get better and you are in for a bundle of hurt. As you find your way in the dating world, and meet new people through dating services, use your instincts and intuition along with your strong communication skills to determine if this is a good, kind, trustworthy person. Even good people cheat, but if you establish a strong communicative bond from the start, this will lessen the likelihood that your new partner will stray.
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